This week I continue the theme that most of life’s issues are “non-respecter of person issues.” In particular, I want to discuss being a dad vs. being a father. This is part-two of a four-part series on Fatherhood.
I believe there is a vast difference between being a dad, and being a father.
There are millions of children growing up in our country today without fathers, but they do have a dad.
Stated differently, the way the human race regenerates itself from one generation to the next is through a man and a woman choosing to engage in sexual activity which creates life. We can watch almost any sitcom, movie, or music video and see this activity casually taking place. This activity produces the next generation, upon which the couple may choose to work together to pass their values, goals, desires and dreams to the next generation. That union obviously does more than simply pro-create; however pro-creating the next generation was the primary purpose of the act.
Several times since I began this column, I have written about my experiences attending an International School where some 90 nationalities were represented with less than 500 pupils. Having lived with students from Asia, Africa, The Middle East, South America and North America I can assure you that it’s universally true that the proper pressure applied by a loving father, who is seeking the best for not only his next generation, but the generations following the one he is immediately responsible for, can have a tremendous impact on an individual. Stated differently, the absence of having a loving father applying the appropriate pressure that is best applied by a father figure can have a devastating impact on an individual, a family, multiple generations within a family, indeed an entire culture.
I believe we are witnessing in American culture the impact of millions of boys agreeing to the act of becoming dad’s, but lacking the fortitude to become men and take on the role of being fathers. Sadly, I believe we have allowed government programs exacerbate this trend having a devastating impact on our republic as a whole, and our future. Ultimately, I believe fatherlessness is a national security issue.
I hinted at this in my April 4th column, “Things Preventing America from Becoming Great Again,” when I shared recollections from both my grandfathers, and asked you to consider joining me in prayer for the issue of fatherlessness and work ethic in our nation.
I want to reiterate that request as we come out of this weekend, dedicated to celebrating fatherhood.
This is a non-respecter of person issue. One’s creed, race, or socio-economic status is irrelevant when the responsibility of engaging in the act of becoming a dad or demonstrating the fortitude required to become a father is considered.
This issue is so important. Prior to reading part three next week, I hope you join the discussion when part two is posted online later this week.